social media

Have you ever scrolled through your Facebook news feed and wondered why you felt kind of down?

Maybe you got on to quickly check in with a friend or to post a note and picture about what you’re up to. But, you find yourself scrolling…a quick “like” here…a brief comment there…and you notice something has changed.

Your thinking has changed from That’s a great picture of my friends, to That looks fun. I wish I could do that.

What beautiful scenery! turns to I’ll never get to go there.

I’m glad she finally got to visit there. becomes Must be nice!

You get the picture. (no pun intended)

Social media has its place. Keeping up with friends and family and sharing pictures can be great. It’s fun to see what others are doing, right?

But sometimes, social media can be too much. In fact, maybe it should come with a warning label:

Warning: social media in excess can cause envy and jealously. The potential exists to change your good mood to a sour disposition, which can then be projected on others. Use with caution.

We think we can handle it, don’t we?

Until we can’t.

Here are a few tips I’ve been practicing…

1) Give yourself permission to reduce (or eliminate) your social media time. You are not required to keep up with others in how much you interact online. If someone questions your lack of presence, simply explain you’ve decided to spend less time there. If they don’t like it, who cares?

2) Pay attention to what you’re thinking and how you feel. If you feel a shift in your mood, log out of wherever you are. Better yet, log out before your mood changes. It takes practice and discipline, but it is worth it. Remember, you have a choice in social media—no one is making you scroll through Facebook to the point of depression.

3) Find something else to do. You may feel like something is missing, and it is because that’s how you are used to spending your time. Depending on how bad the addiction is—and yes, social media can be an addiction—there will be a period of withdrawal. Remind yourself that you are not required to check in with others via e-mail or social media around the clock. If you have notifications pushed to your phone, turn them off. Make the choice to check statuses on your own time—not everyone else’s.

It gets easier. Really, it does.

And you may realize two things in the long run…you don’t miss it as much as you thought you would…and your friends and family are a lot more interesting over longer intervals of time.

What has been your experience with social media—do you find yourself needing to scale back?


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What I ask myself when technology makes me crazy

typing handsTechnology frustrates me. Can I get an Amen from anybody?

I’ve been wrestling with a technical issue and, as of this writing, we haven’t been able to resolve it. I say “we” because the problem is beyond my ability to fix, so I’m paying someone to fix it for me.

Yes I have a degree in computer science, which makes me think I should have the upper hand on technical problems. But I earned that degree back in the 80s, so more than a few things have changed since then. Besides shoulder pads and big hair.

And technology is changing so fast it’s hard to keep up.

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Are You Starting the New Year with a Purpose

I’ve been thinking about time alot this week. Starting a new calendar is a big deal. I love having a clean planner, dates stretch out fresh with possibilities. No appointments scribbled out yet and no reminders of my problem with procrastination or promptness, just clean white pages waiting to be filled.

Did you know that God cares about time?

I did a search of the use of the word “time” in the NIV Bible, and discovered that it is used 888 times. The first verse which includes the word “time” is in the Book of Genesis, the first chapter, where in verse 5 it says:

God called the light “day,” and the darkness He called “night.” And there was evening, and there was morning—the first day.

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Jesus Take the Wheel

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

Sometimes it’s hard to know which way to turn, which area of your life has gotten out of balance and which needs to be steered back on course. Every since I’ve become a mom, I’ve struggled with balance. Yet, I’ve been able to encourage others along the way even though I don’t have it all figured out myself…

I wrote the following to a friend who was starting on a similar journey of balance in her own life:

“Listen to that gentle whisper God is speaking to your heart and see where He wants you to let go.

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Ready, Set, Balance?

Many of us struggle with balancing family, careers, and ministries. We struggle with hearing the voice of God and fulfilling the call we feel we have on our lives. How do we really know what we should be doing, and if it’s God’s timing?

For years, I’ve asked similar questions trying to balance what I felt were my primary vocations in life. A stay-at-home, homeschooling mom and wife, pursuing a writing career. But just when I’d get my “plates” spinning and balancing on the pole of “life,” one “plate” would demand more of my attention, then another and another, and before I knew it I’d be running around trying to keep the plates spinning.

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