Honestly, it has been a REALLY rough month for me. My son, Liam, and my husband both suffered from a nasty virus that took them out for a few days. Then, I ended up in the hospital with horrible stomach cramps that would just not go away. And to top it all off, Liam has decided to not sleep through the night. (I blame it on his teeth.) Needless to say, I am physically worn out.

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I can’t remember a time where I felt so inadequate as a wife and mother. I cannot seem to measure up to the “Superwoman” that I often feel I need to be. You know, the wife who loves her husband well by cooking him well-rounded meals throughout the week, and packing his lunch every night. Or the “Superwoman” mom who never runs out of patience and knows exactly how to soothe her crying child, who rocks her baby to sleep every night and in turn, is always the one who gets up in the middle of the night, joyfully. She is the mom who would never want alone time because that would be horrible. And of course, “Superwoman” always finds time to not only work a full-time job, but she comes home FULL of energy to spend on her child and husband. And last but not least, she finds the time to exercise, keeping herself in the best possible shape for not only her own benefit, but for her husband! I am far from being Superwoman

As I drove to work the other morning, all I could do was cry as I listened to the words of the song, “Keep Singing” from Mercy Me. Here’s a sampling of some of the words, but when you have a free moment, head on over to Youtube and check out the video. You will be moved.

Another rainy day
I can’t recall having sunshine on my face
All I feel is pain
All I wanna do is walk out of this place
But when I am stuck and I can’t move
When I don’t know what I should do
When I wonder if I’ll ever make it through
I gotta keep singing
I gotta keep praising Your name
Your the one that’s keeping my heart beating…
Can I climb up in Your lap
I don’t wanna leave
Jesus sing over me
(Graul, B., Kipley, P., & Millar, B. “Keep Singing.” Undone. Integrity Media, 2004.)

Do you feel as though it’s been a long time since you’ve felt sunshine on your face? Are there days when you want to throw your hands up and quit? Do you wonder how you will ever make it through? If so, let me encourage you to climb into the lap of Jesus and let Him sing over you. These words brought healing to my soul as I envisioned myself sitting in His lap as He sang over. I didn’t want to leave that place.

Maybe you have had a rough month too. God wants to bring the sunshine back to your face, the sunshine that you will find when you allow yourself to sit in His lap and let Him sing over you.

Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” (Matthew 11:28 -The Message Bible)

Jennifer Bennett is not your typical “God Girl.” She not only believes that women were created to be successful, strong and courageous in a world that often asks them to “hang out in the background”, but she is a firm believer in a God that has a special place in His heart for women whom He longs to see impact this world in some BIG ways! As a “Marketer of Hope” expert who currently serves a variety of women, she encourages, inspires, and equips women to live the lives that they were meant for!
56 Responses to Superwoman!
  1. Jennifer
    October 2, 2011 | 5:50 am

    Wonderful post Jennifer, thanks for sharing. As a single mom of 3 I can certainly relate to your feeling of “failing” at being a Superwoman mom! The important thing is that we are always doing and being the best we can be, and not forgetting that it helps to rely on spiritual inspiration and support along the way.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:44 pm

      Thanks so much Jennifer for your encouragement! You are absolutely correct, relying on Him truly makes all the difference!

  2. Daphne
    October 2, 2011 | 6:27 am

    OH MY! right now i am not the super wife, mother, or employee that i should be either; really struggling with that. i WILL find that song, i WILL climb in His lap and let Him sing over me. thank you for the courage you have and so openly share. THANK YOU!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:45 pm

      So happy to hear that you were encouraged Daphne! Hang in there!

  3. Leslie Hurlebaaus
    October 2, 2011 | 6:59 am

    Thanks, Jenn. That was excellent. How easy it is to keep going in our own strength until we find ourselves dried up and beat up with the expectations we place on ourselves. Thanks for helping young moms realize their worth is not in what they do but in who they are.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:46 pm

      Leslie-it is so easy to keep going in our own strength until we have absolutely nothing else to give! Our worth is found in the one who knit us in our mother’s womb! Thanks for sharing!

  4. Molly Rider
    October 2, 2011 | 7:04 am

    Jen! Great post. I think we can all relate. Something that I have found very helpful in starting my days off with a little sunshine is to say, “Thank You.” As soon as the alarm goes off I thank God for the blessing of another day – I am alive and well and anything is possible. When I do this, I am flooded with warmth and feel the urge to spring out of bed (instead of hit the snooze button.)

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:47 pm

      Thanks Molly! Love that-starting our days with Thank You! What a difference that would make! Thanks for sharing!

  5. Nicole Kirksey
    October 2, 2011 | 8:10 am

    Jennifer, that passage from Matthew in the Message Bible is a blessing for me. I’m overwhelmed by the roles you’re describing–wanting to be a successful business woman, cooking and cleaning wife, patient mom, ever-available friend and good Bible study girl! 🙂 Getting away with God and hearing from Him is the best way to prioritize among all the balls in the air, and to fulfill that calling that He has me specifically.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:48 pm

      Nicole, I’m so happy that you were blessed! Getting away with God makes all the difference! He is doing a mighty work within you! Hang on for the adventure of a lifetime!

  6. Jandi Theis
    October 2, 2011 | 8:46 am

    I smiled as I read all the things “Superwoman” should be able to do because I have thought the same thing many times. It took me long enough to learn, but now that two of my three kids are grown up, I know that the only one who really ever expected me to be superwoman was me. When I quit trying to do it all & take the time to connect with God… rest in Him, walk with Him, & work with Him (as you mentioned), it all goes so much easier. Thanks for this great message this morning… it was just the reminder I need!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:49 pm

      Jandi-we do put so much pressure on ourselves, pressure that many times just wears us out! Connecting with God makes all the difference for me too! Good to hear from you!

  7. Sharon O'Day
    October 2, 2011 | 9:52 am

    Jennifer, I’ve never had kids, so I can’t relate to the Superwoman struggle from the family angle. But as a woman who was on the front lines of Women’s Lib back in the 60s and 70s … trying to make our rightful place through school and career achievement … I can tell you I know the Superwoman space. And there were days when I just wanted to run off with the circus. (In fact, some would say that I did.) I honor the role and the challenge you have taken on.

    • Lynda Russell
      October 2, 2011 | 4:31 pm

      Thank you for your work on the front lines. We are in a much better place because of women like you.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:50 pm

      Sharon-I think we have all experienced moments where we would like to run off with the circus! But I have found that once I’ve given it to Him, this amazing peace that passes all understanding comes upon me and makes everything better! Many blessings to you my friend!

  8. Anastasiya Day
    October 2, 2011 | 9:59 am

    Jennifer, great article as always! Thank you so much for sharing this post with us.

  9. Julie Ziglar Norman
    October 2, 2011 | 10:09 am

    I love Jesus’ lap too! Thanks for the reminder. That sun doesn’t shine through my limited vision….keeping my eyes on Jesus…that does put the song back in my life. Great tie in! Thanks for the reminder to keep my focus on Him!
    Because He lives!
    Acts 4:13
    Julie Ziglar Norman

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:52 pm

      Julie-so good to hear from you! Love what you wrote-“keeping my eyes on Jesus…that does put the song back in my life.” How true that it is. Nothing compares! Thanks for sharing!

  10. Casey Sollock
    October 2, 2011 | 10:28 am

    Jennifer! GREAT article! I know we can all relate to this. I am definitely NOT superwoman, and I feel guilty about that sometimes! Some days are long and exhausting, and I’m still seeking clarity on lots of things (which is tiring in and of itself). The only thing I can do is take it all to God and find peace, comfort, and energy in his promises!! Thanks for this article. Good stuff!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:53 pm

      Thanks so much Casey! God is working in and through you. I just know that your breakthrough is right around the corner! Love ya!

  11. Norma Doiron
    October 2, 2011 | 10:40 am

    Jennifer: that is one of my favorite verses. 🙂 Yes… God is always there to lift these burdens up and carry them for us… He’s just wanting us to come lay them at the feet of Jesus. Isn’t HE Awesome??? Love him with all my heart… x0x

    Norma Doiron @ The LEARNED Preneur ╰☆╮

    Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” (Matthew 11:28 -The Message Bible)

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:54 pm

      Isn’t it a great verse Norma?! I just love that we have someone to turn to when we realize that we just can’t do it on our own! Only can He calm our anxious hearts! Thanks for sharing Norma!

  12. denny hagel
    October 2, 2011 | 11:13 am

    I always find it so sad when parents come to me feeling as you describe here in your article. Trying so hard with the best of intentions to “love” everyone around them only in reality letting themselves slip away emotionally which of course where the irony comes in because the result is that then they are the least equipped to help anyone else. Forget what society leads us to believe…God wants us to love everyone and it begins with loving and caring for ourselves. Self-Care is not Self_Ish !!!

    • Kim Hawkins
      October 2, 2011 | 1:00 pm

      I too strive to be SuperWoman but then reality rears its real and sometimes ugly head…I am perplexed. What do you mean I cannot do this? What do you mean I too need to rest? This “human-ness” is so inconvenient!!! As Christian women this is when it is most critical that we draw close to Him. Take time to draw on His promises.

      ~ 2 Cor. 4:8-9 TNIV

      ~ James 4:8a TNIV

      Thanks for the confession that you too aspire to be SuperWoman. XOXO ~ Kim

      p.s. Off to search for my cape and revitalize my super powers. : )

      • Jennifer Bennett
        October 5, 2011 | 7:57 pm

        So many times Kim we feel like we have to be able to do everything and many times, it’s just impossible. As you said, it is vitally important that we draw close to Him because it is He that will get us through each day!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:55 pm

      Oh how true that is Denny-self care is not selfish. That is why I am so excited about offering the Rejuvenate Your Soul conference in January! I believe we all need times of rest, refocusing, and inspiration! Thanks for sharing Denny!

  13. Solvita
    October 2, 2011 | 11:54 am

    This is so true we have to be superwomen to get all done regardless of any circumstance and therefore it is necessity for us to take care of ourselves like never before…God gives us the peace and strength any time as soon as we realize it is available to us…loved your article and we need you Jennifer!!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:57 pm

      Thanks so much Solvita! You are wonderful!

  14. Cindy Short
    October 2, 2011 | 12:33 pm

    I love the picture you paint of sitting on God’s lap. It is hard for us “Superwomen” to sit still but that is what we need to find peace.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 7:58 pm

      Thanks Cindy! I can relate, but oh when I sit still, what a difference it makes. Thanks for sharing!

  15. Hughie Bagnell
    October 2, 2011 | 1:06 pm

    Excellent article Jennifer…Thank you for sharing! …Hughie

  16. Patsy
    October 2, 2011 | 3:14 pm

    This is so true for so many of us. We try to be the “best” superwoman we can be…Thank you for reminding us to crawl up in Jesus lap for a time of rest.

  17. Connie
    October 2, 2011 | 6:14 pm

    It took me 26 years of parenting to learn to put myself second. God is first; I’m second, and my children are third. I’m a single mother. If I wear myself out serving everyone else but fail to take care of myself, there will be no glue to hold it all together. Thanks for the reminder that there is always rest in the arms of Jesus.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 8:00 pm

      Absolutely Connie-self care is vitally important to be who God has created us to be. True rest can be found in Him! Thanks for sharing!

  18. pat
    October 2, 2011 | 10:03 pm

    Enjoyed your post. I spent many years trying to be Superwomen. Still catch myself many times and you are right it is all self imposed. Others are not expecting so much from us. Love the passage you picked.

  19. liz
    October 2, 2011 | 11:01 pm

    I love to Read your post Jen !!! I think you are a Super Woman. I neglect me and my spirtual well beling for a very long time. I have made this year a year of new beginnings for me. Thanks for the reminder !!!

  20. Olga Hermans
    October 2, 2011 | 11:06 pm

    Great post Jennifer; you have spoken to many women and about many women from your heart. Life can throw us into many challenges; it is so awesome when we know that we can give all our cares to Him and we always can run into His arms for encouragement. Thank you!

  21. Elise Adams
    October 2, 2011 | 11:23 pm

    So touched by this article…thank you so much for sharing from you heart. I love the feeling of sunshine on my face. And to know that God’s Son-shine desires to shine on me with grace and forgiveness…truly priceless tonight. thank you!

  22. Beth Jones
    October 2, 2011 | 11:48 pm

    Jennifer, we all struggle with that “Superwoman” syndrome. I love that scripture in Matthew and the song’s lyrics by Mercy Me – yes, the “unforced rhythms of grace…living freely and lightly.” That is what we need each day, God’s grace, instead of trying to do it all in our own strength. Thanks for that reminder to climb into Jesus’ lap to receive that strength. 🙂

  23. ENO Nsima-Obot MD
    October 3, 2011 | 12:25 am

    I just love the simple reminder in your article to learn to give ourselves up in submission to God. At times the phenomenon of being ‘superwoman’ can be a trapped belief wherein we become convinced this is as He planned it for us or that as women, we are carrying out our Godly duties and we can’t fall short. Sometimes falling short is where the breakthrough exists. Thanks for the reminder. Great article!!

  24. Lori
    October 3, 2011 | 8:02 am

    You are so right Jennifer! There are so many things on our plates as women and we have such high expectations placed on us, usually by ourselves! We do need to let the sunshine on our face! Great article!

  25. Lizabet Nix
    October 3, 2011 | 10:06 am

    A thought-provoking post. Jesus told Martha that it was Mary who was on target for the most important thing. The Superwoman Syndrome is extremely seductive, especially for Type-A, “get it done” women. But it is only through God’s equipping the we can operate in Supernatural Syndrome.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 8:01 pm

      LOVE it Lizabet! Great comparison there with Mary and Martha! Thanks for sharing!

  26. Charlene
    October 3, 2011 | 11:19 am

    Great article! I’m sure that most women feel this way at one time or another.

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 8:02 pm

      Oh yes, I think we all have our moments. Thanks for sharing Charlene!

  27. Mandy B. Anderson
    October 3, 2011 | 1:53 pm

    Jennifer – although I’m not a mom, I related to this article a lot! As a woman who has spent a lifetime overcoming life-threatening health problems, the “Superwoman” paradigm seems to far out of reach. This is an article that every woman will relate to because the standards our society sets for people in general, is just…impossible for us humans. God’s love is so amazing and the only thing that I’ve found takes away the feeling of not being “perfect!” Awesome – thanks for sharing!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 8:02 pm

      Mandy-you are AMAZING! Your story and how God has worked through is just so inspiring! So grateful to know you!

  28. Wil
    October 3, 2011 | 7:09 pm

    When my husband died, I felt like nothing would ever pull me out of the darkness where I lived for years, struggling to overcome the horrible mess he left for me.
    It is so good to be back in the light!

    • Jennifer Bennett
      October 5, 2011 | 8:03 pm

      Oh Wil-I’m so happy to hear that you are back in the light. Praying that God would just shower you with many blessings my friend!

  29. Tamarah
    October 4, 2011 | 12:28 pm

    I love the imagery! It is so comforting to not always have to be the adult and remember that we are children of God and he loves our hearts that are open to being healed by him. Thank you for sharing such a tender moment with us!

  30. Jennifer Bennett
    October 5, 2011 | 8:04 pm

    Isn’t that great Tamarah-that with God, we can be the children that He loves. We don’t have to have everything figured out; He is our dad who is dedicated to taking care of us. What an amazing truth that is! Thanks for sharing!

  31. AJ
    October 6, 2011 | 7:43 am

    Great post Jen!
    Your words are always inspiring.