Why?

If you have children, you are probably familiar with the stage they go through where everything has “why?” attached to it.

“Why is the sky blue?” “Why do dogs bark?” “Why do I have to go to bed?” It’s been some time since my children have been through this stage, but they still ask why quite often. Usually it’s when I tell them they can’t do something.

Last night I was at Redbox renting a movie. There was a father with two boys who looked to be about ages 6 and 12. They kept suggesting movies to rent to which the father would reply no, and then they would argue, “But why can’t we watch that movie, Daddy?” This went on for some time until finally the father said, “I don’t have to tell you why, you just have to know that I said no and that’s that. I’m the parent.”

I chuckled thinking how much we are like these boys sometime with our heavenly father.

We know He is the parent and He knows what’s best. Many times, He is protecting us but we just can’t stop asking “Why Daddy?”

Sometimes the whys are deeper. When something bad happens or when something good doesn’t happen. It’s at these times that well meaning Christians might say, “It is not ours to question why.” But I’m not sure I agree with that. Our pastor shared just recently that there are many examples in the bible of people asking “why?” – Job, David, Habakkuk.

Researchers tell us when a child is asking why, oftentimes it’s not really the cause and effect answer they are looking for. They are simply unable to communicate any other way. Asking why is one of the most important strategies children have for connecting with their caregiver and learning about the world around them. Asking why promotes communication and bonding.

I think it’s OK to ask “why” sometimes. It is a great way of communicating with our Heavenly Father. We just have to be sure of our attitude when asking. Honestly seeking answers from God leads to wisdom. We might not always get the exact answer we are looking for, but we can trust His answer will always be the right one.