God Loves Me…Messy and All

My daughter does not like to clean her room. She never has. In fact, unlike me, she seems to like clothes on the floor and stuff everywhere.

Years ago when she was younger, I once again brought up the fact that her room was out of hand, and she needed to spend time cleaning it up. She wasn’t happy. The more we talked (I explained, she debated) the more upset she got, until finally she burst into tears, and cried, “God made me this way, and you should love me messy!”

I assured her of how much I loved her, messy or not…but her room still needed work.

Isn’t that how we are sometimes with God—worried about how “messy” we are and if He can love us that way?

His Word assures us that He does love us! In fact, He loves us so much…He doesn’t want to leave us where we are. He wants to lead us out of our sinful ways and messy lives.

Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin? (Romans 2:4 NLT)

God loves us, messy and all…but our lives still need work.

God is kind, but he’s not soft. In kindness he takes us firmly by the hand and leads us into a radical life-change. (Romans 2:4 The Message)

My daughter never wants to clean her room, but there are times I have to make her. It’s one of those life lessons I want her to learn, so I’ll often work with her on it.

Just as she’s encouraged when we start to make progress, I’m encouraged when I see the changes God is moving me toward in my life. At first, the process isn’t comfortable, but as the changes feel more natural, I think less of returning to my old ways.

You might be wondering what happened with my daughter’s messy room…she still likes it that way. I’ve gotten better with not letting it drive me nuts, and she keeps a somewhat clear path so I can walk around without tripping.*

*Permission was requested and received before posting this story. {smile}

15 Responses to God Loves Me…Messy and All
  1. Mary Johnson
    May 10, 2012 | 3:48 am

    My daughter doesn’t clean her room too.. That’s what we are fighting about the other day. Her room is a mess. Full of scattered things around. I hope one day she’ll realize the importance of being neat and organize.

    • Laura Rath
      May 10, 2012 | 3:31 pm

      I think it’s a matter of having control over something in their world. I can understand that – I think everyone feels that way sometimes. Thanks for your comment Mary!

  2. Christina
    May 10, 2012 | 5:47 am

    Sounds like my house:) So thankful that God lives me, messes and all, and that He enables me to change. Great post!

    • Laura Rath
      May 10, 2012 | 3:32 pm

      Thanks for your visit and comment Christina! God bless!

  3. Barbie
    May 10, 2012 | 10:48 am

    My kids stopped cleaning their rooms, and I’ve stopped asking them too, for the most part. I am in a season of picking my battles. With all that I am juggling, I just can’t go there. However, once a month on a Saturday, I encourage them to do a deep clean and if I get involved it usually happens. I am so thankful that God accepts those messes in my life that I refuse to clean up! He’s so patient with me.

    • Laura Rath
      May 10, 2012 | 3:36 pm

      Thanks Barbie, I’m with you on picking my battles! Some are just not worth it. Just like we want to spend time with and teach our kids, God does the same with us.

  4. Sylvia R
    May 10, 2012 | 11:50 am

    I think my boys would have been less messy if 1) I had gotten them into regular daily routines of small tidyings-up and things like that and 2) I had been less messy myself! Over years I’ve overcome a lot of that, but not enough, soon enough, to be a good example in their formative years. I’m just glad that God is more gracious and patient with my emotional and spiritual messiness now than I am! What a great and loving God!

  5. Nikki
    May 10, 2012 | 12:51 pm

    I am still wondering how I will handle this one since my oldest is only 4 and has to pick up every day. So far he doesn’t oppose it so much but time will tell! (and that was so great of you to get permission first before posting this–thanks for treasuring her heart!)

    Me, on the other hand, may look like I am organized and have it all together…that’s what closets are for! 🙂 So thankful God sees my closets and encourages me to eliminate the clutter in my heart. reminds me of that childhood song “He’s still working on me”…do you know it?

    great post, friend!

    • Laura Rath
      May 10, 2012 | 3:42 pm

      Hi Nikki,
      I’m not familiar with the song you mentioned, but I will have to look it up online.
      I have promised my daughter that I will not write and post about her unless she’s approved it (both before and after I write it) and I try to keep it general – no name, age, or anything that would upset her. Thanks for commenting on it. 🙂

  6. Wendy
    May 10, 2012 | 5:15 pm

    Love it when a child comes away with such a simplified statement. Yes God loves us messy and all but He loves us too much to allow us to remain that way!

    Great post 😀

    • Laura Rath
      May 11, 2012 | 8:41 am

      Thanks Wendy for stopping by and leaving a comment!

  7. Kimberly
    May 10, 2012 | 6:22 pm

    hee hee. I am all too familiar with there only being a path left for me to walk through safely. 🙂 Too funny.

    So glad He loves messy me right now, just as I am…and also thankful He loves me too much to leave me this way. Now if I will just cooperate with the work He wants to do…

    🙂 Blessings,

    • Laura Rath
      May 11, 2012 | 8:43 am

      Oh yes…the cooperation part! Just like a child I can be stubborn and uncooperative, but I’m working on it. Thanks for you comment Kimberly!

  8. Michelle Eichner
    May 10, 2012 | 8:03 pm

    Laura, what a great picture! I enjoyed reading this and loved the line “God loves us, messy & all, but our lives still need work.” You’ve challenged me to show that unconditional love to my little men, but still encourage them to work on their weaknesses. Thanks!

  9. Laura Rath
    May 11, 2012 | 8:45 am

    Thank you for your kind words Michelle! God bless!