When it feels like no one sees you…

Ever felt a bit invisible? Ever wondered if anyone ever notices all you do?

It is so hard to not crave recognition for all the hard work we do day in and day out. It is especially hard to feel unnoticed in our efforts to serve the Lord by serving and loving people.

When I have had an especially hard day sometimes all I desire is for someone to pat me on the back and say, “Good job. I saw you. I noticed your sacrifices, your serving, your biting your tongue when you wanted to lash out at that person who wronged you…  Good job not complaining when you had to do that one thing you despised doing yet again… I saw you.”

I don’t know about you, but it is so hard for me to not try to point others’ attention to what I do either blatantly (often by complaining about all the sacrifices I made totally negating the humility I was trying to walk in) or in a more passive aggressive way.

Jesus encourages us, however, to embrace the times when no one sees the ways we try to honor Him in our lives. In fact, He even suggests that we try to do it in secret so that the One who sees all that no one else notices will reward us greatly.

“Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven. So when you give to the poor, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, so that they may be honored by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But when you give to the poor, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving will be in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.” Matthew 6:1-4

Sounds a bit crazy, doesn’t it?! We live in a culture that tells us we deserve to be recognized here and now.

The truth is we serve a God who is not blind nor does He sleep. He sees us!  He sees the ways we stumble along, trying to serve Him and follow His Son, and He delights in us!

He longs for us to look to Him for our reward. He knows that we need reward, but He knows the rewards of this age will fade and wither just like the grasses in the field (and if you saw the brown grasses up here in Northern California in this 115 degree heat, you would agree we want something that lasts longer than grass).

Know that when no one else sees you, He sees you.  He notices all the turnings of your heart towards loving others and loving Him. He notices all the little things and the big things and He is so pleased with you.

And He says, “Good job. I see you. I see YOU.”


Are you like me and struggle with feeling invisible at times?

7 Responses to When it feels like no one sees you…
  1. Mary
    August 19, 2012 | 1:01 am

    Remember my post about God layering His messages to me? This is the second time this week I’ve seen/heard the message about serving God in secret. It’s not something I thought I needed to hear, but maybe I need to ponder this a little more. Thanks Charis.


    • Charis
      August 19, 2012 | 10:41 pm

      wow! that is really cool when God speaks the same message in different ways. sounds like He is really trying to encourage your heart – i love when He does!

  2. Wanda
    August 20, 2012 | 12:02 pm

    Hi Charis, I can relate to this today. Many times I feel as if the little things I do get taken for granted. Thanks for the beautiful remember that one who really needs to see it misses nothing.

    • Charis
      August 21, 2012 | 4:18 pm

      I am glad it was encouraging to you Wanda! You know, there are many times I can go through the day and be fine with no recognition, but it is the tough times when I really need the anchor in the fact that God does see and Jesus said He is the Rewarder of things unseen by man. He does see you!

      Thanks for joining in!

  3. Laura
    August 24, 2012 | 7:05 pm

    Yep. I needed to hear this. Was just listing off all the amazing things I had done today, to my husband. 🙂 I feel like I never get enough credit…no applause! Hard to imagine God smiling over me and praising my hard work. But I should think about that more. Thanks for the encouraging words!

    • Charis
      August 28, 2012 | 12:25 am

      you are welcome! thanks for sharing your struggle with needing recognition as well.

  4. Melinda
    September 16, 2012 | 11:44 pm

    I’m in a season of fighting through feeling “invisible” all the time. There have been family issues, the death of my mom (and best friend), lots of changes, and the end of some friendships with dear, close friends that I thought were “forever friends”-all over the course of the past few years. I’ve struggled with feeling like no one in the world sees me or my heart at all. Thanks for sharing your own struggle with this, because it somehow encourages me. I’m a mama to 5 kiddos too (4 are boys ;).