The Me I Long To Be (Ironing Not Required)

by Dawn

photo credit: clotho98 via photopin cc

photo credit: clotho98 via photopin cc


I have a confession I would like to share with you today. I have a hard time with the domestic side of life my life. OK, I’ll just say it. I really Stink, with a capital S at the whole domestic side of life. I am convinced my mother has a gene that just did not get passed down to me. It’s the one that rejoices in ironing. I am not joking. The woman finds ironing therapeutic. Meanwhile my husband knows that asking me to iron would require us both to be in therapy. OK, that is a bit dramatic but you get the point.

Quite honestly this lack didn’t bother me… UNTIL I became a Christian.

More specifically,  it did not bother me until I became a Christian wife and mother.

I suddenly felt this strong desire to be a cross between June Cleaver and Carol Brady with a touch of Mother Theresa thrown in for good measure. In reality I was more Lucille Ball on I Love Lucy. In The Chocolate Factory. Or selling some kind of Vitametavegiman concoction.  Or in all other sorts of trouble trying, in my own strength, to be the  domestic diva I believed all Christian women to be. That elusive Proverbs 31 woman worked her way into my imagination in a bad and twisted way.

Like Lucy I really wanted to be good. I tried hard to fit into my new roles in life. I wanted to do those things that seemed godly and good, based on standards I saw and heard about at church and from other “good and godly” Proverbs 31 women. But the fact is, I struggled. And on my best days, I felt like a failure. Until the day I had an epiphany. It came through His Word, and His grace.

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. 1 Peter 1:3

The biggest undoing we can ever face is the undoing that God does to get us to the place of His doing

It is in the letting go of the trying to gain, and the beginning of  trusting Him to attain for us all that we cannot.

‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty. Zechariah 4:6

 He has already completed that which He has started in us in His infinite perception.

For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6

The most important thing I can do to be the best wife, mom and woman I can be is by maintaining the vital relationship I have with my Savior and Living God. I can only grow in godliness and goodness, and be fruitful in my God-ordained roles as I myself am disciplined and discipled  by the one who makes disciples.

The The fact is, I have since grown in my roles as wife, mother and even as a domestic diva!  Well, at least the first two roles. Two out of three isn’t bad, right? Better still, ironing is not required!

But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen. 2 Peter 3:18



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Dawn Paoletta is a writer who is finally coming out of the closet and following her dream to share her life lessons and insights with anyone who will listen. Being recently laid up with a muscular injury has temporarily curtailed her career in fitness allowing her the golden opportunity needed to reorder her priorities and shift her focus to blogging her greatest passions: Living out her faith as a modern day disciple of Jesus Christ and enjoying spending time with her husband, daughter and family pets. She is a natural coach and encourager who can't help sharing what she's learned along her journey with authenticity, grace and truth. Visit Dawn at her blog, Enthusiastically Dawn

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{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Lynn D. Morrissey September 28, 2014 at 12:36 pm

Just love your true confessions, Dawn. You give me hope. My mother never showed me how to do anything around the house. She felt sorry for me, because I had so much homework! So I never learned how to do anything. Actually, when I was a teen, I did do ironing, and enjoyed it, because it gave me a chance to listen to all those wonderful LP’s I had of Broadway shows. I even ironed my hair, for goodness sake to straighten it. So I was adept w/ an iron But that’s about it. In fact, yesterday, I even sent Sheridan to a friend’s for cooking lessons. I figured she might not be as luck as I to marry a Renaissance man who cooks as well as he vacuums and does carpentry! While he doesn’t write, he even edits well. Honestly, there is nothing he can’t do, but sing! Anyway, you spur me on to try, and I thaknk you!!! Can’t wait for your planner post.


2 Dawn Paoletta ( September 28, 2014 at 5:28 pm

The thought of you ironing your hair just makes me giggle! I am fortunate that my hubby had a mom who raised her men to cook! He has taught me all I know in the kitchen. lol. Thanks for your words, Lynn!


3 Susie Klein September 28, 2014 at 12:40 pm

I so love this post, Dawn! Getting ourselves clean before God is number 1, then the other stuff will happen when it happens. Ha!


4 Dawn Paoletta ( September 28, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Well put- Indeed.


5 Cecelia Lester September 28, 2014 at 12:42 pm

Dawn: Due to some trouble with my back, I prefer not to iron. Hubby knows this and he is fine with it.


6 Dawn Paoletta ( September 28, 2014 at 5:30 pm

I hadn’t even thought of that- it can be torturous on the back…and feet. OY! Sorry for your back pain, Cecelia, it’s good your hubby understands and loves you just fine minus the ironing! Good man.


7 Ann September 28, 2014 at 12:53 pm

You really make me chuckle Dawn. I’m right along beside you on this one. How in the world did she do it all? Working full-time at one job & part-time at another & still our house was always clean & tidy. It took me a long time to come to the realization that Mom had an Amish girl come in once a week & clean for her (and she even did the ironing!).


8 Dawn Paoletta ( September 28, 2014 at 5:31 pm

Your mom sounds like a truly wise woman. Except for the ironing part. lol. Just kidding! Thanks for chiming in!


9 Sandy September 28, 2014 at 1:07 pm

Love your post, Dawn! I really enjoyed reading it! 🙂


10 Dawn Paoletta ( September 28, 2014 at 5:33 pm

And now you know the ugly truth, Sandy! My deep , dark secret…Nice seeing you here! Thanks for coming by the blog and 5MFF today, I appreciate seeing you here!


11 Pam September 28, 2014 at 2:23 pm

When we got married 45 years ago, thankfully permanent pressed clothes became available…and I conveniently got rid of all my husband’s shirts that did NOT say “permanent pressed” . I do NOT iron unless it is a matter of life or death…well, almost. And he became a preacher too! Suit coats do cover up a multitude of sins (wrinkles). Anyway, learning to be the me that I thought Jesus wanted me to be was not easy…still isn’t sometimes…but thankfully He has accepted me “just as I am without one plea”…and if Jesus loves me just as I am, then I guess everyone else will have to too.
Love this post sweet friend. Now I know we are kindred spirits.


12 Dawn Paoletta ( September 29, 2014 at 1:53 pm

We are kindred spirits, for sure, Pam!


13 Ginger Harrington September 30, 2014 at 8:41 am

We are so inspired and pressured by the roll models we treasure. It’s amazing how deep some of those impressions go. Enjoyed your post today, Dawn.


14 Dawn Paoletta ( October 1, 2014 at 12:37 am

Thanks, Ginger. So true, both inspired and pressured.


15 Heather October 3, 2014 at 1:18 pm

Thank you for sharing your heart openly and honestly, Dawn. We are able to encourage each other best when we are transparent. There are some aspects of being a homemaker that I truly love and others that I don’t at all. Grace. It’s all about love and grace. Thanks for sharing.


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