You’re Already Enough

by Laura Kyle



                               

She spends fifteen minutes on her makeup, adding a bit of eyeshadow here, curling those eyelashes one more time. Her hair just isn’t laying right, as she checks the back for the fifth time with her handheld mirror. Maybe a turtleneck would work better with her hair down, or maybe she should just wear it up and out of the way today. She frets. She frowns. She feels paralyzed in this place of not-pretty-enough.

Across town, another woman is cleaning. Baseboards, windowsills, walls, doorknobs. She sees some spots on the window that she must have missed the day before. She sighs and reaches for the Windex and paper towels. Her infant squawks from across the house, signaling that nap time is over. There is still dust. There are still spots. There are crumbs on the floor. She wants to love and be loved, but there is an ache inside, a yearning that she feels will only be satisfied by perfectly clean.

Her kids are tired, hungry, and generally discontented. One yells at the other from across the park, something about “you better stop that or else”. The other yells back, “oh yeah” and the verbal battle is on. She tries to intervene, but all the other park parents get to see her middle schoolers flailing at each other and throwing not-so-nice names back and forth. She wants to crawl into a hole and escape from this embarrassing failure, what she thinks looks to everyone else like worst mom ever.

We all have high expectations for ourselves. You bet. Something or someone, somewhere along our life’s journey preached a hard-hitter about doing it right, being the best, looking good, and impressing everyone. It’s the easy way to teach obedience, right? “Now you better do this right, to make mama happy!” We do things right in order to earn love.

Performance runs deep.

But I have a question for you today. Actually, Holly Gerth asks the question in her book and I just stole it from her {with proper attribution, of course}. Here it is:

“If you knew you would be completely loved and accepted no matter what, then what items would be crossed off your to-do list for good?”
You’re Already Amazing, by Holley Gerth

Would you stop worrying about how your jeans make you look? Would you let the window spots stay for a few years? Would you smile at the park parents who totally know all about sixth-graders-having-emotional-outbursts?

Would you see others’ needs more clearly? Would you more easily recognize your child’s emotional cues? Would you have time to take lunch to that homeless man you saw on the corner?

See, here’s the thing. When you stop worrying and fretting and trying to meet your own heavy expectations, you’re sure to have more time and emotional energy to invest in others! You’ll be free to love.

“You’re already enough because Jesus is enough in you. You’re loved, accepted, set free to live your LIFE to the fullest.”
Holley Gerth

You’re already amazing, beautiful, accepted, redeemed, chosen. You’re already enough.

So do it. Drop your weighty expectations.
Be loved and love.

“My brothers and sisters, God called you to be free, but do not use your freedom as an excuse to do what pleases your sinful self. Serve each other with love.”
Galatians 5:13 NCV

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Laura lives in that little yellow house with three boys, one a couple decades older than the other two. She and her husband love to spend time outside and are often seen either pushing or pulling their double stroller along leafy trails, through snow or behind a bike. Laura blogs over at Pete And Buzz about the reality of life -- a desperate balancing act where tickles and games of chase meet laundry and healthy meals. She has much to learn and room to grow and is thankful for a few minutes here and there to write. Find her on Twitter and Facebook!

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1 Kimberly September 21, 2012 at 9:00 am

Performance runs deep. Yes! I know that is so true in my own life. It is something the Lord has been and is continuing to work on in my life.

Love your point that we would have much more time and even emotional energy to invest in others if we would give our all too heavy personal expectations a rest.

May we each trust that Jesus is our enough and that we are already loved beyond what we can wrap our minds around.

Definitely need to ponder Holley’s question about what I would cross off of my to-do list. :) Blessings!

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2 Laura September 22, 2012 at 7:13 pm

Thank you for your comment, Kimberly! You get it! Love hearing you put it in your own words.

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