Be who you are…

by Chelle Wilson



                               

be yourself
At a time when just being a young black man in America is enough to get you killed—you know what I’m talking about, you’ve read the headlines—I wonder what the other mommies tell their sons. All mommies worry about their sons, don’t they? All mommies tell their sons to be careful, to be respectful, to stand up for themselves, walking in the Truth of God in whose image they are made, right? Are other mommies afraid for their sons?

Here is what I know of fear.  I am sufficiently realistic to acknowledge that I will never be free from them. However, I declare that they are not the boss of me, and will never paralyze me to the point of immobility. Neither will I parent in response to fear. Fear is part of life. The trick is not to let it own you.  So, while I do wonder what the other mommies tell their sons, this is what My Beloved and I tell ours, and it is this.

Be who you are…

I am always grateful for confirmation, and I know that there are times when one Word speaks volumes.  In a single week, I heard the same message from God delivered several different ways.

Be who you are…

It was delivered in an image-Be yourself, delivered in a Sunday sermon, and spoken in a comment someone shared with me during a conversation a day or two later. Clearly this is something I need to pray about in raising our son…

 Be who you are…

John the Baptist was no diplomat. In preaching Luke 3:9,  preparing humanity for Christ, he had a frank perspective on this world in its current, sorry state. Matthew Henry explains,

The guilty, corrupted race of mankind is become a generation of vipers; hateful to God, and hating one another. There is no way of fleeing from the wrath to come, but by repentance; and by the change of our way the change of our mind must be shown. If we are not really Holy, both in heart and life, our profession of religion and relation to God and his church, will stand us in no stead at all; the sorer will our destruction be, if we do not bring forth fruits meet for repentance.

It’s time to make a declaration of intent, as a woman, as a mother, as parents raising young men and young women in America …it’s time to be who you are.

The length of our days and those of our children are unknown to us; we’d be wise to use them well. None of us should ever be unclear about that which we believe. As professed children of God, we are obligated to reflect His Glory. The Light does not come from us, but if we fail to let it shine, someone seeking the God in us might not see. We are called to the Great Commission. We have work to do. The warning in failing to do the work in Luke 3:9 is clear…the axe is laid to the root of the trees. Every tree therefore that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.

Even in the face of my fear, living in a scary time in a scary world, I am not prepared to volunteer for that kind of condemnation. Therefore, in spite of my fear, I’m offering this advice to all the mommies of all the sons. Let us be, and let us teach our children to be who they are; Whose they are.

Who are you?

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I write at the intersection of life and faith, not as a theologian, but a regular person struggling to make sense of it all. I write the soundtrack for my faith…hymns, anthems, jazz vespers and hip-hop Gospel, encouragement to rely upon faith to live and love in the face of confusion. You can visit me at Treat Me to a Feast, Facebook, and Twitter

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1 Lisha Epperson September 21, 2014 at 1:54 pm

I have to admit, I’ve wondered what other mothers tell their sons. And still wrestle with how to express my concerns to my sons without smothering them in fear. I rest knowing I know nothing more than the love of a god who loves them more than I do, knows the number of hairs on their heads and has a plan and purpose for their lives. I tell them this before and after the black mama speech about how they may not always be treated fairly. I’ve got a grown man, a teen and pre-schooler who all fit the description black male. This is an important topic for me. Thanks for sharing this Chelle.

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2 Chelle Wilson September 21, 2014 at 7:45 pm

Lisha, I know, and I promise you, I wonder. I will neither live in, nor raise our son, in fear. Our God is mightier than that.
Thanks as always for your support.

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3 Diane W. Bailey September 22, 2014 at 9:53 am

Chelle, I have prayed about what to say to my grandchildren. I don’t want them to operate from a position of fear, but I don’t want them unaware at the same time.

Good post!

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4 Chelle Wilson September 25, 2014 at 9:31 am

Diane,
I know-it’s such a scary place. We want to raise children who feel free and worthy, but we have to temper that powerful message with the caveat that “everyone may not see you that way.” It makes me sad. Thanks for your words and may your prayers be multiplied.
Chelle

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