We love, God loved first + Valentine’s Printable

by Michele-Lyn


“If I don’t have love, I am nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:2 NIRV

Without love, nothing? Really?


The chapter goes on to teach us what love is and what it is not — love is patient, kind, not rude, does not insist on its own way, is not irritable or resentful, or easily angered


These last few weeks I’ve struggled with my determined child. In the height of emotion and frustration, anger words I can never regain — were released. And my actions and my words were contrary to the “is and nots” of love defined by His Word, by His life. I wonder how a child has the ability to press me and push me to the edge of myself, and my default may be to blame the child. Yet, as the reflection of my own heart is revealed in God’s word, I know the child is not the problem.

God is using the child and child-rearing to expose the mess in me. It’s His love and the way He parents, He’s desiring for me to learn His way of grace.

Christ showed us the way. We love because He first loved us.

In those moments when I may want to push the still maturing child away, I remember how God loves, and the innumerable times He’s accepted me despite all that is wrong with me, despite all the times I missed the mark, despite all my faults and failings. And I don’t have to fear losing His love when the process of transformation gets too messy.

As a mama I have the greatest opportunity I may ever get to demonstrate His love and grace — by loving and accepting the child in the very moment when loving that child is the hardest.

And follow His leading — grace is the way.

Like Jesus, I am to present to my family the grace of God. What kind of Jesus am I to my kids? As a parent am I the kind of Jesus who sends out verbal and nonverbal messages –“Not good enough; something’s wrong with you; try harder” — or do I mirror a Jesus whose stance toward them is one of unconditional love, who reminds them of their profound worth, who offers the support they need in order to live? God loves me with a love that went all the way to the cross.” — Families Where Grace is in Place by Jeff Vanvonderen

I do need to be honest with my children, correct, discipline and tell them the truth of what they need to hear, but it’s how I choose to temper my honesty with grace of edification and encouragement — making certain my children know there is nothing they can do that will make me love them any less. That is most important.

And maybe this Valentine’s Day is a perfect day, and any day, everyday perhaps the better way would be to focus on the best and not the worst, the beautiful and not the ugly, and all that’s lovely about my children — those unique, God-given qualities I can magnify, report, and praise.

I created this printable, and perhaps you’d like to use it, too?

Fill in, cut out, whole punch and tie a string to hold them together.

10 things I love about you [for girls] Print Page 1, Print Page 2

10 things I love about you [for boys] Print Page 1, Print Page 2

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Michele-Lyn is a wife to a wonderful man, and homeschooling mama of four beautiful children -- 3 spunky, confident beautiful girls, and 1 tender-hearted handsome son. There is never a dull moment at home with kid’s ages ranging from 2 years to 18 years old. She would not trade for anything the HAPPY CHAOS they make as a family, together. When she was 16 and pregnant, Jesus rescued her. Since then, she has belonged to Him, and willingly lives -- A Life Surrendered.

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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Jennifer Peterson February 14, 2013 at 12:34 pm

OH man I needed to read this today.. I got me one too and I can’t believe how she can push my buttons! So thankful for God’s love and GRACE! Awesome post!!


2 Michele-Lyn February 15, 2013 at 9:20 am


It’s a daily walk for me. God has used motherhood to refine me, and to learn about His grace more than most anything.

Thank you for your sweet visit! 🙂


3 charis February 16, 2013 at 11:22 am

i can relate. you are so right that we are called to show love and mercy to our kids in the midst of their most unloveable moments… it is the exact same thing we need. that is the type of love that transforms… but sometimes it is so hard to give away in the heat of the moment!


4 Michele-Lyn February 21, 2013 at 11:32 am


In this daily walk I am learning both, to give grace and to received it. It’s part of the work of transformation, I am convinced, and I am grateful God will not give up on us in the process. And this is what I hope to show my children — the way He loves us.


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